Love existed since before. It was expressed in different ways depending on the evolution of cultures. During the existence of our ancestors, there were many actions which should express love to someone. Some of the traditional practices are considered as violence. But the question is: were our great grandparent’s rapists? The answer to this can be Yes or No since there was no rule which should govern the community. Our grandparents were very hard-workers and were committed people. Generally, their lives should be characterized by milking cattle, educating children at home, carrying out the noble activity of Guterura. For those of you who don’t know the meaning of “Guterura”, this means “to carry”. This is a traditional cultural practice where a man should identify a woman as his future wife, then he uses the forces to carry her up to his house without dating.
The process was like made in the way that the targeted women should know what will happen to her. Without her knowledge, she should find herself being carried by a man with the help of his friends and relatives. After a while, the man should go back to the family of the married women and then negotiate for her hand in marriage. Is this an act of sexual violation?
In today’s world, we all know that making pressure to someone in order for him to do something without his/her consent is harassment or violation. And the result from this is that it can lead people to be jailed since they violate the human right. The question here now is that “what can we do for the families and cultures which are still practicing this traditional culture”? The response to this can depend on the understanding of each person and he believes that he has. Many people can focus on what the law says and other people do respect the culture. This is what creates conflict between culture and law.
Depending on what we are now seeing, I can say that the practice of Guterura was good. This is my own point of view because everyone can have his/her point of view. Look at the way things are nowadays. People perform all the romantic movies, there is a cyber-dating, and even some relationships are starting in the morning and die in the evening. When people are getting married, they are divorcing in a few months after. We should not assist this to our grandparents. Though they used the Guterura system for them to get married, their union was taken in a serious way.
I would like to hear about your own point of view about this case by leaving a comment down.








